Combating loneliness~Not a fairy tale

Samantha Evilsizer

“My eyes are ever toward the LORD,
for he will pluck my feet out of the
net. Turn to me and be gracious to
me, for I am lonely and afflicted.”
Psalm 25:15-16 (ESV)
Don’t look his way, her heart and
mind insist.
She doesn’t want to look. Then
again, she does. Though my friend
did not check the “Plus One” box on
her RSVP card, she wishes she had.
Why had she come to this party
alone? Maybe then she wouldn’t
gravitate to him.
He’s reckless and destructive. My
friend knows better, but he’s the
only one who can relate to her. Even
so, she avoids eye contact, hoping to
make him believe she doesn’t need
him anymore.
She succeeds until another round of
laughter fills the Christmas party.
Her resolve walks out as he walks up
to her, extending a knowing hand.
Fingers entwined, she falls in his
snare. She can’t stand him … this
companion called loneliness.
In the midst of listening to
marriage, baby, vacation, life-is-
grand stories, she hears the voice of
loneliness, high above the
conversations: You’ll never have this.
You’ll be lonely forever .
She had promised herself she
wouldn’t turn her eyes to him this
time. As she was getting ready for
the party, she put this truth on: “My
eyes are ever toward the LORD, for
he will pluck my feet out of the net.
Turn to me and be gracious to me,
for I am lonely and afflicted.” (Psalm
25:15-16 ESV)
But she forgot this hopeful promise
as she fell into the trap of
By the time the clock chimed an
acceptable hour to bid her
goodbyes, she was eager to be gone.
One step out the door and she
lowered her guard too soon.
Loneliness had saved his best for
last. Powerfully, he pummeled lies
until she believed: You will always
be lonely.
When he trotted off, leaving her
alone, a different hand reached
down. One that is gentle and
healing. Let me help you up. Rough
night, huh?
She looked up to see His scarred
hand extended.
How’d You know I was here?
He tells her He’s been there the
whole time, always near, at the ready
to rescue any time she looked to
Him for help. As she faced Him, He
began to untangle the false claims
of loneliness with truth: I am near
(Psalm 145:18). I will never leave
(Deuteronomy 31:6). I am your joy
(Psalm 16:11).
Hollow parts of her heart filled with
the confidence of Jesus. She knew it
was time to break-up with loneliness
for good. Not just at parties, during
holidays, or weekends with nothing
Maybe it’s your time too? Truth is,
loneliness can tag along whether
you are alone or surrounded by
family and friends, on special days
and ordinary days.
There’s only one way to keep
loneliness from being a constant
companion in life. It is to make sure
our “… eyes are ever toward the
LORD …” Psalm 25:15a (ESV).
Let’s keep our focus on God and call
out to Him when we feel loneliness
setting a trap for us: in the festive
times, in the quiet times, at all
Dear Lord, my eyes are ever toward
You, for only You will release my feet
from the trap of loneliness. Will You
please turn to me and be gracious to
me, for I am lonely and afflicted?
Thank You for being near and being
my joy. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.


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